🎄 Our Next Event - Christmas Movie Night: The Polar Express 🚂🍿 Friday 6th December 🎄

"In November 2017 at the age of 32 i was in the bath when i found a lump in my right breast, i waited 2 days to see if it was anything to do with hormones, if the lump would change or go away, when it was still the same 2 days later i knew it was time to see the Doctor. I got an appointment that day and after feeling the lump the Doctor told me she wanted it checked out at the hospital. 10 days later i had my appointment at Kings breast department, i saw the Doctor who was pretty certain it was just a cyst but sent me for a Biopsy and a Mammogram anyway and told me to come back a week later for the results. 

One week on and we were back in the Doctors office for the results, i already knew deep down what those results were going to be but even so hearing the Doctor say '' I'm so sorry but you have breast cancer'' still came as a shock, my first thought was 'but what about Sean and the kids' I was then told i had a stage 1 tumour 1.8cm in size and  grade 3 which is the fastest growing cancer and would need either aggressive chemotherapy followed by a lumpectomy which is surgery to remove the lump or surgery and then a less aggressive chemotherapy followed by radiotherapy and 5 years of hormone tablets as my cancer was boarding being hormone receptor positive. We then went on to meet the lovely Gillian who was to be my breast care nurse, at this point my mind had gone totally blank and i couldn't take in anything she spoke to us about, thank god Sean was with me asking all the right questions. 

I found my lump very early and because i went straight to the Doctor it made the whole process of treating it so much easier. 

We waited until 2 days after Christmas to tell the kids, that was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do in my life, they were amazing about it and have continued to be, i cant imagine how it must of felt at the ages of 11,13 and 14 to be told your mum has breast cancer but they have made me so proud. 

Everything was put into action very quickly, I had my lumpectomy in January and started the 1st of my 4 chemotherapy sessions in February.  I have now had 3 chemo's and have my last one on 25th April followed by 4 weeks of radiotherapy everyday Mon - Fri. I have lost my hair but lucky it has now grown back almost to pre cancer length, cant say the  about my eyebrows though I was left with a few stands of hair and that's it but its all good as i found a wonderful beautician who does the most amazing microblading, she was actually recommended to be by another cancer warrior and it was one of the best decisions i ever made to have it done. You can't even tell my brows are not real hair. I have had some really tough days health wise after chemo but i am so so lucky to have caught it early, it hadn't spread, treatment began quickly and it was all removed or destroyed through surgery and treatment  all within the space of 8 months. I now take a tablet called tamoxifen everyday which is a form of cancer hormone treatment and will be taking that until 2028.

I still have many health problems due to the severe side affects of treatment, i am in pain every single day and rely on lots of pain meds to get me through each day. I am currently having scans to see if we can find whats causing this pain, for many of us cancer really doesn't end when you get the all clear, it hangs around making its mark on your body and mind for years to come. Another affect of treatment is i have severe anxiety and PTSD, I have found the mental side affects are just as bad as the physical and after speaking to many other warriors this is something a lot of us warriors deal with but don't receive half as much support with and that needs to change.  This is something I would like to work on in the future by creating my own charity.

Planning these events is a real help to me, it takes my mind off the pain and anxiety and although yes it can be very stressful at times knowing i can help make life a little bit easier for others is always worth it, that and the fact ts always an amazing night and so much fun.

Having breast cancer has made me grateful for so my things especially my family and friends, I can not and will not ever be able to thank everyone enough. I have had so many amazing  messages from so many lovely people, even complete strangers and each one i have appreciated more than i can say. They say every cloud has a silver lining and being able to hold these nights raising money for cancer charities to help those affected by cancer  is my silver lining.  

I want to raise as much money as possible and hope you will all help me do that and be a part of something special.

Last year I was officially 5 years into remission which is a big milestone to get to and to celebrate, I held 2 events. The Men's football tournament and my 5th ball - The Winter Wonderland Charity ball. 

So far I have raised over £30,000 for other cancer charities. Now a registered charity (as of September 2023), I can officially fundraise for my own charity that I started in 2018, and have since grown with now my 5 trustees and more helpers along the way! And the charity can begin making steps to becoming a well-known charity which can help other individuals as well as their loved ones who are affected by a diagnosis. A diagnosis affects everyone around, not just the diagnosed 'patient' - Jo, Breast Cancer Survivor and Unmask Cancer Founder 2024